DATING
Red Flags That Mean You May Be Getting Catfished
BY AMANDA CHATEL
Story Inconsistencies
When people are building a character that isn't themselves, it's hard to maintain consistency. People who lie will repeat the same story whereas others reconstruct what they know to be true — but repeating can only work to a degree because things can fall through the cracks or get embellished with time.
Professional Looking Photos
If your partner’s photos look model-esque or every photo is a professional-looking one that's probably from Getty, then something is up. Another red flag is if they can't send you a selfie at a moment's notice.
Over-The-Top Excuses
Someone who is catfishing just can't say something came up or they're busy to avoid a meeting; instead, it has to be grandiose. "Dramatic or often cases of illness or car accidents — things that would immediately elicit your sympathy," said the host of MTV's "Catfish" Nev Schulman.
Refuses To FaceTime
After texting for a while, some people want to move to FaceTime, but catfishers will avoid all modes of video chatting and have a plethora of excuses as to why. "Many catfish tell others they prefer to speak over text, email, or phone calls to keep up the façade," says psychotherapist Brooke Schwartz.
No Digital Footprint
In 2022, everyone has some sort of digital footprint, so if the person you're messaging doesn’t, you should inquire about why. "Not being able to verify any of the info they give you is a grand red flag," says CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking Susan Trombetti.