Red Flags In Scarlett Johansson And Colin Jost's Relationship From Our Matchmaker

At first, Hollywood bombshell Scarlett Johansson and "Saturday Night Live" funnyman Colin Jost may seem like a surprising match, but they've been making it work for nearly a decade. The couple has been together since 2017, married since 2020, and welcomed a child together — their son, Cosmo — in 2021. What's more, they still seem to be very much in love. Speaking to "LIVE with Kelly & Mark" in November 2024, the "Lost in Translation" actor called her husband "a very, very, very great guy. I'm extremely lucky. He's a kind person, and he's hilarious and thoughtful and loving. And he's a great dad, and I love him. I feel very, very lucky."

On Jost's part, he wrote in his memoir, "A Very Punchable Face," that Johansson is "beautiful, smart, sweet, and intimidatingly sophisticated" and has "a grace and a smile that I've still never seen in any other human." Wow. It almost sounds too good to be true. Seriously, it makes us wonder: How unshakeable is this couple, really? 

To get a professional perspective on this loving duo, Glam spoke exclusively to Susan Trombetti, matchmaker and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking. "When it comes to Colin Jost and Scarlett Johansson, there are a few red flags out there, although I don't think it spells the demise of their relationship," Trombetti told us. "It's just that it could wind up being problematic and may rear its ugly head from time to time." With that said, here are some specific challenges and obstacles that could easily become red flags in Johansson and Jost's romance, according to Trombetti.

Many comedians mine their personal lives for material, and Colin Jost is no exception, meaning that Scarlett Johansson sometimes comes under fire. But in any relationship, so-called "harmless" jokes can sometimes be signs of problematic behavior. After all, there's a fine line between funny and hurtful, and Susan Trombetti warns us that Jost may be crossing it. "The jokes at her expense are definitely a problem," Trombetti says. "This indicates a lack of boundaries between the two." 

Perhaps the most infamous instance of Jost lampooning his wife came during a December 2024 segment on "Saturday Night Live." In a joke swap on "The Weekend Update," Jost traded pre-written gags with co-star Michael Che, and they had to deliver the jokes live without any preparation. Unfortunately, several of Jost's surprise jests were pretty insulting to Johansson. "Y'all know Scarlett just celebrated her 40th birthday, which means I'm about to get up out of there!" began one joke, which was rude but relatively tame. The next few were much worse, including one that made off-putting associations between Johansson's sex life and a roast beef sandwich.

"I understand that Michael Che wrote Colin's joke for the last joke swap, but the look on Scarlett's face said it all. She's playing along to be a good sport, but she says she was 'genuinely shocked' — and her face looked it," Trombetti exclusively tells Glam. "Jokes at her expense with no limit on what can be said are not funny and can even be destructive, even. This should be off-limits." It sounds like Johansson needs to set some firm boundaries about playing the fool for Jost's career or else this public awkwardness could develop into a significant red flag.

While Colin Jost has been married to Scarlett Johansson for years now, he's not her first husband — in fact, he's her third. The "Black Widow" actor was previously hitched to "Deadpool" star Ryan Reynolds from 2008 to 2011 and French journalist Romain Dauriac from 2014 to 2017. (Her first hubby is now famously wed to a "Gossip Girl" star, but there may also be red flags in Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively's relationship.) Speaking exclusively to Glam, Susan Trombetti warns that Johansson's colorful romantic history could be a sign that she struggles with long-term partnerships. "Her marriages and relationships seem too many for one so young. That says she has a dating pattern of moving quickly and jumping," Trombetti observes. Speculating on the root of this behavior, she adds, "Maybe [Johansson] is gullible or she is a hopeless romantic."

This seems to resonate with comments from the star herself. "The first time I got married I was 23 years old. ... I didn't really have an understanding of marriage," Johansson told Vanity Fair in 2019. "Maybe I kind of romanticized it." Johansson also acknowledges that her previous forays into romance lacked a strong foundation. "I didn't know — not only what I wanted, but what I needed from somebody else," she said on "The goop Podcast" in April 2023. "I think identifying those things was a game-changer for me." 

Johansson's new understanding of her wants and needs may be the key to a long and healthy partnership with Jost, and the couple is certainly persevering so far. "Let's hope this relationship goes the distance," says Trombetti. "It seems to offer stability, and [Johansson] could have been trying to replace that in her life." Of course, stability is a two-way street, and this red flag could still be an issue if Jost isn't on the same page about their long-term commitment.

Scarlett Johansson isn't the only one who may have carried commitment issues into her union with Colin Jost. Even though Johansson and Jost tied the knot in 2020, Susan Trombetti warns that his fear of commitment could still pose an ongoing red flag in their relationship. "I was so scared of marriage for so long," Jost confessed during a celiac benefit in 2019 (per Page Six). "You talk to someone who's been married for five years, and they're like, 'Don't rush into it ... you have your whole life ahead of you. Don't have kids. They're the worst.' " Notably, these comments were made while Jost and Johansson were already engaged, hinting at some lingering doubts and fears as their wedding day approached.

"Colin's reluctance to commit sounds problematic," Trombetti exclusively tells Glam. "Sure, he is married, but does he still struggle? I don't mean does he think about cheating, but more like is he present for her every day? And does he devote time to the relationship on a regular basis and all the things that make up a commitment?"

It probably doesn't help that Jost and Johansson spend so much time apart due to their professional responsibilities. That said, an anonymous source told Life & Style, "They go the distance to make their relationship work," revealing that they use FaceTime and Zoom to keep in touch daily. "They don't place boundaries on each other. .. [They] support each other's careers and dreams." All of this effort certainly seems like a good sign. Hopefully, it's enough to not only keep the duo grounded but also nullify any red flags from Jost's old marriage fears.

It's no wonder we've seen so many star-studded romances implode — maintaining a solid relationship is hard enough without the added pressure of media visibility. Unfortunately for Scarlett Johansson and Colin Jost, their dual celebrity status pretty much guarantees constant attention from the press. From collectively gasping over Jost's off-color jokes to picking apart Scarlett Johansson's most inappropriate outfits, fans are curious about both their public and private lives. But as Susan Trombetti cautions, this could become a sticking point in the romance. "It's Hollywood, where relationships tend not to last," Trombetti points out, explaining that media scrutiny is "definitely a pressure" for any celeb pairing.

Moreover, Trombetti hints that there could be a pain point lurking in the couple's differing strata of fame. "She is an A-list star and he is an 'SNL' star. That makes him cool with a sexy allure, but at the end of the day, the spotlight and paparazzi are truly on her and will be for years to come." So far, Jost hasn't revealed any signs of envying his wife's mega-star status. However, only time will tell how their different career trajectories may weigh on their bond.

On the upside, Trombetti is optimistic about their chances to overcome the frustration of constant attention, plus any other red flags that appear. "They probably do and would navigate any issues well because both seem grounded," she exclusively tells Glam. And while Jost and Johansson face some unique challenges, Trombetti ultimately says, "I think they make a great couple."